1er RDV : Choses à ne pas Dire ! / First Date Don'ts !

Qui n a pas eu de premier rendez-vous au moins une fois dans sa vie ? Pas vous, ni moi.

Durant ces moments décontractés pour certains, ou stressant pour d’autres, il y a certaines choses à ne pas faire et surtout à ne pas dire. Autrement, on passe de l’autre coté de la ligne blanche, et on peut faire nos valises de prétendant.
Patti Stanger nous dévoile les 10 choses à ne pas dire lors d’un premier rendez-vous. Ensuite, je vous relaterai mes propres expériences.

Who has never had a first date, at least, once in the entire life? All of us did (I think)
During these encounters, one can be at ease or not. There are things we cannot say, otherwise we cross the line and we fall into the uninterested encounters pitfall.
Patti Stanger tells us 10 Things we must not talk about at a first date. Then, I will comment some of the 10 Things according to my personal experience.

1. Your Exes

Nobody wants to hear about who came before them in a potential relationship. Keep the ex talk to a solid zero. Ex talk just makes a person feel compared to people that shouldn't matter anymore.

2. Your Experiences

Online Keep the business of dating to yourself. Do not discuss your experiences dating online, in services, with matchmakers, etc. This keeps the business of love out of the business of love. It's tempting, but don't do it! By talking about each other's experiences dating online, you become friends comparing notes—not blossoming lovers.

3. Your Health Issues

No one wants to hear about your aches and pains on a first date (or even a second, third or fourth date). These are private matters reserved for significant others who are already in love. Don't scare off a potential mate just because your feet hurt.

4. Money

Financial issues or pluses are private. Keep them to yourself. Talking about what you have (or don't have) can lead you wide open for embarrassment…or judgment.

5. Your Pets

I'm sorry, but talking about Fefe's "cute little face" or Sheba's need to claw at the drapes is of no interest to anyone but you. Accept it.

6. Religion

It's true…talk of religion usually leads to antagonizing each other. Basic religious values are fine to chat about, but digging any deeper can ruin potential. Have beliefs you share, but oversharing too soon can scare someone away.

7. Politics Same as religion—'nuff said.

8. Business

Like money, talk of business can lead to a business deal—not a love deal.

9. Your Kids

If you have them, talk about them…but not too much. If your entire conversation revolves around your children, your potential mate will feel left out before he's even in.

10. Criticism of Your Date

The last thing you want to do on a first date is pick apart the person who's taking you out. Keep that commentary to yourself and zip it! You want them critiquing you?

Patti Stanger


My Comments according my own experiences:

Mes commentaires selon mes propres experiences :

1-Your Exes
When a girl is telling me exes stories, “I think to him” “I miss him” “he does not answer to my calls or my emails” “he s banned me from his facebook network” I think she s not cured yet. And she crossed the line.
Quand une fille me raconte des histoires de ses ex, en insistant que son ex le manque, qu il ne répond pas à ses appels, sms, emails et qu elle n a pas pu accès à sa page facebook, je me dis que la fille vit dans le passé et qu’elle n a pas encore tourné la page. Pour elle, c’est mort !

2-Your Experience Online
When a girl related me this, I get bored and I do not want to know the freaks she met or her one night stand(s) experience. Patti Stanger is right, that is buddy issues not first date issues.

Dès qu’une fille me raconte ses expériences de rencontre en ligne, je commence à m’ennuyer car ce sont des histoires à raconter à ses proches et pas dans une première approche. Je n ai pas envie de savoir si elle a rencontré des lapins crétins ou combien de plans charnels elle a eu. Patti Stanger a raison encore une fois !

3 –Your Health Issues
A girl told me she was diabetic and she needed to get shots every day. It didn’t bother me but i lost a close friend who died because of it. So, I was frozen.

Un jour, une fille me dit qu’elle est diabétique et qu’elle doit se faire des piqures tous les jours. Ca ne m’a pas dérangé mais j ai perdu un proche qui avait cette maladie, forcement ça calme…

4-Money
Does she likes to spend her money in luxuary and her favourite drink is champagne ? Ok, next !
Aime-t-elle dépenser son argent dans le luxe avec beaucoup de plaisir et sa boisson préférée c’est le champagne ? Ok, à la prochaine !

5-Pets
One day, in a pub, a girl spent a lot of time taking about pets. “Do you have a cat? Do you love animals ? Oh I do live animals! Do you love dogs ?” Each of my answers were deliberately evasive to bother her. Fortunately, I was drinking a kriek beer, it’s helped me a lot to spend time with her.
Dans un pub, une fille me martelait de question sur les animaux domestiques “as-tu un chien ? aimes-tu les animaux ? oh, moi j adore les animaux ! tu as un chat ? pourquoi ? » Je répondais à chaque fois d une manière dubitative pour l’énerver. Heureusement que la Kriek que je sirotais m’a beaucoup aidé à passer cette heure difficile.

A first date can be interesting or boring, or very funny !

Un premier rendez-vous peut être intéressant, ennuyeux ou très amusant !

Conclusion :

A close friend (a girl) told me one day during a first date, the guy left because she wasn't saying a word. Do not forget to talk ;-)

The path could be a great one... or a short one...

Une copine m'avait dit qu'un jour, lors d'un premier RDV, le gars était parti car elle ne parlait pas du tout. N'oubliez pas de parler ;-) Ca peut vous mener loin... ou pas....